#40: Emotional support through pregnancy loss with doula Rosalia Pihlajasaari

On this episode of the podcast Rosalia and I speak about pregnancy loss. We touched on the emotional experience of families who are going through this, what are their needs and how a person like a bereavement doula can meet those needs. We talked about the terminology and the importance of the words we use, as well as the statistics on pregnancy loss. I had a real aha moment towards the end of the episode related to the experience of trying to conceive again following a loss. We finished the episode by talking about the Finnish system and what one can expect if something like this happens.  Notes:  Rosalia shares how she got into working as a bereavement doula Why the use of the term pregnancy loss is important  The difference between miscarriage and still birth  How the term miscarriage could unintentionally bring feelings of self-blame  How we are afraid to speak about this topic  The statistics of pregnancy loss How birth and death are being removed from the community into the hospital where it's isolated and clinical rather than community based What the emotions that families are dealing with in this time depending on the kind of experience  What is the kind of support that families really need at this time What someone who has experienced multiple losses could be feeling Listen to the aha moment i had when talking about attaching ourselves to a new pregnancy at the early stages How a bereavement doula like Rosalia can help support and meet the needs of the grieving family  The added benefit of having a birth doula from early on in pregnancy or before conception  Similarities between birth and death  Understanding what happens in the system in Finland to be able to make educated decisions about your experience  The importance of educating yourself and asking for services to support your experience  Links: Previous episodes with Rosalia on the Birthing in Finland podcast Episode #2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6vGTqCLYeVVoEzXvZV3x7Y?si=MYAMl-jZQwChaqKqPbbOzg Episode #32: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1P7XP8Z4wak1oraxZJpmzQ?si=KDQvr1F6Rmu5FTr7jySu5Q Birthing in Finland episode on mindfulness as a parenting superpower (episode #37) https://open.spotify.com/episode/67ac3x3hQddZ4OOLHYowaO?si=Jq3e_zv5Rxa3Vyz2p4cYww Rosalia's website on bereavement support https://birth.fi/full-spectrum-bereavement-doula/ Rosalia's IG account https://www.instagram.com/birthwisdomdoula/