116: How to detach from the outcome

When we are going after goals we have this pressure to bring them to fruition. And I’m turn we operate from a place of force instead of operating from a place of flow.  This is because we are tied and attached to a specific outcome. While that seems normal it’s one of the worst habits to get into if you want to bring your goal to fruition.    Detaching from the outcome is so important because when we can detach and when we release the how we get to surrender on a deeper level and amazing things can happen.  Sadly we are so conditioned to believe that we have to control everything and in turn we become fixated on the outcome and the way things have to happen. When we are setting a goal we focus on what we want to call into our lives then we get attached to how it can happen. When we detach from the outcome we create an energetic space for these things to be able to flow to us in new, creative and expansive ways.   For example when I am launching I like to keep busy because I used to always micromanage my way through my launches. When you’re not you’re in a state of anticipation which means you’re in a state of expectancy and in turn you’re splitting your attention and energy between faith and fear when you are fearful you’re attracting more of Thag   Here are the steps to detaching   Clear on what you don’t want and then shift that to get crystal clear on what it is you do want.  Identify where you feel the pressure to control things  Find the safety in releasing control (even if only a little at a time)  Identify things that will help you see the benefit to releasing control. This validates that it’s safe to detach and still have the blessing.   One of the most relatable quotes I have ever heard is: You can miss who you’re called to be because you’re attached to who you have decided to be——don’t miss your breakthrough by forcing and settling for something less    Dr. Nicolya is a 10X best selling author, certified human design expert, EFT and NLP practitioner, hypnotherapist, life and success coach who helps others live their life more intentionally. As a coach, Dr. Nicolya also supports others who desire to become best selling authors to turn their message into their masterpiece. You can connect with her here: www.nicolyawilliams.com