Episode 45: Men & Marriage, The Other Half of the Conversation

Episode 45 of the Mainspring Family Wellness Podcast is a riveting discussion around men and marriage with Quentin Hafner, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Newport Beach, and the particular challenges of a modern marriage from a male perspective.  The conversation touches upon the impact of a traditional male upbringing, cultural depictions of men, gender differences in communication styles, and the presence of shame in marriage and fatherhood.   Episode 45 Men & Marriage, The Other Half of the Conversation   02:29 [About Quentin Hafner, his personal life and his work as a licensed marriage and family therapist]   03:49 [Explanation on common challenges men face in marriages]   06:08 [Discussion on the generational evolution of what it means to be a husband]   10:28 [Discussion on the role of gender biases as it relates to a marriage]   12:51 [Discussion around communication styles and the difficulty men have connecting with spouses on an emotional level]   15:50 [Discussion on male archetypes present in communication styles]   17:14 [Discussion around distraction as a coping mechanism and the lack of emotional learning in childhood]   18:06 [Definition of the term “high-value husband”]   20:09 [More conversation around the gender divide within communication styles and how to work around those differences]   23:05 [Discussion on vulnerability as a conduit for connection and more productive conversations]   27:18 [Conversation around the presence of shame in men when it comes to parenting and relationships]   30:27 [Discussion on conversation dynamics and tools for effective communication]   32:16 [Conversation on how the culture of men is depicted in public arenas and the media]   37:05 [Conversation around the need to be more thoughtful about the current societal pressures of being a man]   39:43 [Promotion of Quentin’s subscription services for men, a therapy resource for men]   41:57 [Conversation close with Quentin]   42:34 [Summary of takeaways with Jenna & Kristen]   GUEST: Quentin Hafner Quentin Hafner is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Orange County, CA where he specializes in helping people find solutions to life's challenges that result in more personal & professional fulfillment. In particular, Quentin loves working with men in the context of couples therapy to help them discover their hidden potential to be better Dads & better Husbands. In 2018, Quentin wrote and published an Amazon.com #1 best-selling marriage book Black Belt Husbands to help husbands solve challenges in their marriages. Quentin is happily married and a father of two young boys, Levi & Samuel. In his spare time, he trains in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, loves to surf, go camping, and trail running in the most incredible nature preserves in Orange County.   Connect with Quentin Hafner: Website: Quentin Hafner Website: Black Belt Husbands Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn   Connect with Mainspring Family Wellness: Website: Mainspring Family Wellness Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn   Connect with Kristen & Jenna: Kristen: LinkedIn Jenna: LinkedIn