87: The Most Powerful Human Connectors

Brian Mayer talks about the most powerful ways that humans can connect.  This is so very important in a remarriage because often we got these wrong before and if we can get them right this time, this next relationship just might last a lifetime.  Things like empathy and vulnerability can go a long way in bridging a chasm that can sometimes develop between couples and in families.  We hope you enjoy today’s message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Before we start, I want to make sure you and your partner both listen to this episode, whether together at the same time or separately doesn’t matter.  It matters that you both not only are hearers of this episode but doers in a mental mindset shift.  According to a large group of fellow couples therapists that I know, I asked them to tell me in one word what the most impactful human connector is.  They gave me so many great answers and we are going to talk about 10 of those today.  If your make these 10 a part of your lives as a couple, it can move your relationship to something so much more special than even you could have imagined when you started.  Here they are: Vulnerability is exposing yourself in such as way as to be capable of being wounded or hurt or opening yourself up to attack or criticism.  Transparency means being open and candid or being easily seen through. Curiosity means being eager to learn. Authenticity means being real or true to oneself Empathy means identifying with or experiencing vicariously the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.” Acceptance means taking or receiving something just the way it is. Compassion means feeling deep sorrow and also combined with a strong desire to lessen the suffering. Mirroring means subconsciously imitating the attitudes of another.  This one has a fine line in which great connection can occur or mocking can be felt depending on the genuineness of it.  Kindness means mild, gentle, helpful Suffering means to undergo pain or distress and this one is a connector obviously when either one or both in the couple are undergoing stress from outside the relationship such as with a sickness or financial crisis.  We.  The dictionary definition of this one because it says it is the “plural of I.”  I love this because it means while you still maintain the I, there is a togetherness in this word.  In my opinion, relationships while they can be healthy and or restored if necessary by doing things like date nights and other quality time activities, there is something so much more powerful to these words that if you can apply them to your daily life in your relationship and family that it help a great deal to give you the marriage of your dreams.    Resources: None Mentioned.   Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!  ​ As always remember that marriage is not something you have, it is something you do.  Talk to you next week unless you are binge listening in the future in which case I will talk to you in about a minute!  Take care.